Dar Si Hmad staff brainstorming the levels and causes of conflict within their own work environment
Instead, we must separate the person from the problem. Consider these two components that distinguish nonviolent actions from violent actions: First, one must not consider the other person or party as an enemy and second, one must not intend to make the other side suffer. To put it simply, one must view a conflict as such: “me and you vs. conflict,” rather than “me vs. you” or “me vs. conflict.” This perspective avoids the assumption that the other person IS the problem (while also preventing the difference to escalate to a stage of controversy or violence) and encourages individuals to react and manage their differences with peace and understanding.
Dar Si Hmad and SFCG staff engaging in an interactive "ice-breaker" activity
- Marshall Rosenberg, Ph.D. Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life. Encinitas, CA: Puddledancer Press. 2003.
- M. Scott Peck M.D. The Road Less Traveled: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values and Spiritual Growth. Simon & Schuster. 1978.
- Martin E.P. Seligman., Ph.D. Authentic Happiness: Using the New Positive Psychology to Realize You're Potential for Lasting Fulfillment. New York: Free Press. 2002.